As I was thinking of what to write in this entry, I felt as though I should start with “When I was your age…”. My thoughts that are to follow may sound like a grumpy rant, but really, it’s more a commentary on how courtesy and respect are thrown to the wayside these days. Or maybe I’m having a grumpy, old lady day.
Recently I, alongside 4 other bakers, donated our time, services and product to an event that had 800+ confirmed RSVP’s. I’m not talking verbal “yeah, I’ll be there” RSVP’s. I’m talking actual, electronic, this person had to sign up for an account, RSVP’s. We each provided 300-400 desserts. That on average is $600 worth of product we EACH provided, not to mention the time we spent in the midst of wedding season to provide a great spread for those who said they’d come. We held up our end of the bargain. Sadly, those who said they’d attend didn’t. I don’t want to even tell you how many people came, but let’s just say if that was a party I was throwing, I’d be deleting a lot of friends from my Facebook account.
So what happened? All I can gather is that people didn’t have the common courtesy to show up to a party. Life got too busy, something better came along, or simply, they got lazy. In any case, I was planning my dessert table for weeks, turning down paying orders and agonizing over making the perfect s’more. My ass was up the night before until 4:00 am baking and decorating, then waking up at 8:00 am to leave the house by 9:00 am. I did this to make the guests feel like I gave a damn-because I did. I gave a damn that they would have a good time, have enough desserts and would enjoy themselves. I gave a damn that the people coordinating the event would be proud to showcase my work. I gave a damn that the venue we were all representing would be shown in the best light that I could give.
At the end of the day it comes down to respect. An RSVP isn’t just a call to respond to an invitation, it’s a call to respect the person who invited you. Am I complaining? You betcha. Is it warranted? Absolutely. It’s not asking much that people show up to get free swag, especially when they committed to doing so.